Hot Tub Forum
Original => Hot Tub Forum => Topic started by: bosco0633 on January 14, 2006, 05:54:39 am
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well since the misses got knocked up, it has been a lonely time. For the past 4 months, I have been in it only a handful of times. I get bored out there by myself and I feel bad when I go in, because I know that she really wants to go in.
I am getting a little worried that the hype has worn off and now it is just an extra item in the back yard.
I went in the other night with my neighbour for 2 1/2 hours, it was my longest soak and the most alcohol in the tub ever. Well a strong headache from overheating and over drinking learned me.
anyway, just wanted to know if anyone else has had this feeling of feeling like the glamour has vanished. How do you get it back.
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When we first got our tub, it was the beginning of summer, (SE Va. = hot!) The only time our spa room was cool enough to use was late at night, so we would use it right before bedtime.
Towards the end of summer, the every night thing was getting old to us also, because we felt we had to go.... every night.
Now that the weather has cooled off, we mix it up, sometimes late at night, sometimes at dusk, and on the weekend, early morning. Plus we have cut our use down to 4-5 days a week. Still loving the tub though.
On your "pics" post, you mentioned maybe wanting to add a structure around your tub. Ours is indoors, and although I don't show it in my pictures, we have a little bar-like table with stools set up in the corner. Sometimes I let the wife hit the tub first, while I just hang out with an adult beverage.
If you built an enclosure, even if it was just "seasonal", you could heat it, and with seating, your wife (and the baby monitor ;) ) could at least hang out there with you.
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bosco,
I almost always use the tub alone. My wife comes in about once every other month and my 10 YO is about once a week or two.
YES!! It is lonely out there by myself. I was hoping that the family would come in more often. My wife would complain about how cold the pool is and she wished it was at least 90º and then she would go in. Well I keep my hot tub at 101 - 102º and she still doesn't go in.
I have stopped using it everynight also. Maybe I go in 2 or 3 times a week. It's not boring, just lonely. What I'm trying to do is to bring music out there to keep my mind from feeling lonely and it seems to work for now. I don't do it every night but the few times I used it worked OK. I would imagine that it will get old too after a while.
I know what you're going through but on the bright side when your wife delivers, she'll be back! Maybe I should try bribery on my family.
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bosco
sorry to hear about that "regretful feeling".
i dont think its the hype that wore off. its just that your wife cant join you; and that was the point. for both of you to be out in the tub enjoying eachothers company. btw, congrats on the upcomming child. im sure that as soon as the misses is able to soak again, this feeling of "should i have bought it" will pass. just turn the temp down and let the little one splash around some. now thats family fun. feel like i need to put an asterix next to that....i have dont have a family of my own, so i might not be the best person to say that ;D
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I love my tub like I did when I bought it. My wife is inside with the baby, my stepdaughter uses it rarely, and never with me, so it is one of the few places I can be totally in peace by myself. I also can crank up my classic rock with nobody complaining that it's boring music.
I normally go in after work and the dinner is cleaned up and the stuff on tv is boring to me. I am a 5 day a week user and have been for 8 months.
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I like the chance to get away for minutes or so and just unwind. I really take advantage of the personal therapy side of things and its great when my soon to be wife joins me.....but being alone in the spa I also find to be very relaxing and away to get away for few minutes....
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I like the chance to get away for minutes or so and just unwind. I really take advantage of the personal therapy side of things and its great when my soon to be wife joins me.....but being alone in the spa I also find to be very relaxing and away to get away for few minutes....
She's seen you in the spa and still wants to marry you??? Wow! No wonder you want to tie this one down. It also let's me know why you don't want to get her around all of us in Mexico incase we tell stories before the wedding!! ;) ;D 8)
I'm a bit bummed not having you to go into to town with...now whos going to intimidate the locals for me?
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lol.....well..you never know we just might still be there...if we can get everything in order....its just tough since we are getting married 3 days after the trip.....
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mendo
congrats on the upcoming wedding. enjoy the trip to mexico.
ill miss sthis trip.....but theres always next year!
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Thank you and we will see you soon.....
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I know what you mean bosco. The newness has kind of worn off for me as well...and we've only had since September!
I wish my husband would use it by himself. I wish someone would use it. Too big an expenditure to be sitting in the backyard. I think we need to have a party and I see that in the near future.
Hope we "get our groove back"...LOL!
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We have had this tub for 4 1/2 years Before that we did not have one for the last 6 years and before that we had one for 4 years. Our usage back when we got the first one was everyday at first sometimes twice a day as alot here have stated. That tapered off after about a year to a few times a week as the honeymoon wore off and remained steady during the fall winter and spring at 2-3 times a week. After the 6 year hiatus we started in again with a little heavier use but it tapered quickly to a couple times a week and now we look forward to entertaining with friends a couple times a month more than anything. So it is an expensive entertainment tool but a very enjoyable location to socialize with friends.
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I've always had a real fondness for the therapy a hottub provides. Before owning one, I was always sneaking into apartment complexes near my old house and using their tubs.
It was often a big dissapointment to arrive ready to soak and find the tub out of order, not hot, or full of people. I was always looking over my shoulder hoping not to get tossed by security. I guess you could say I was a compulsive closet soaker. I always knew I would own one someday.
Wet testing tubs showed me how poor the jets were in the typical inground spa and I soon fell in love with the premium spas. Having my own spa, my own music, my own privacy and being able to soak with no worry of a tap on my shoulder still hasn't worn off and may never.
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I've always had a real fondness for the therapy a hottub provides. Before owning one, I was always sneaking into apartment complexes near my old house and using their tubs.
So THAT'S why you moved from Jersey, I thought your face looked familiar. The apartment police will be coming to your house! ;D
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Actually I moved from Jersey because Orlando provided me a place where nobody has a serious job and I thought I could goof off for the rest of my life and keep my Peter Pan complex and be accepted. I've since matured but set roots and find the climate suits my clothes.
I don't remember hottubs being standard in NJ as far as apartment ammenities, but they certainly are in Florida. I do miss a lot about Jersey and look forward to the new Soprano's episodes starting in March.
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I like the chance to get away for minutes or so and just unwind. I really take advantage of the personal therapy side of things and its great when my soon to be wife joins me.....but being alone in the spa I also find to be very relaxing and away to get away for few minutes....
My sentiments exactly. Like Mendo, I find the solitude of a "personal" soak to be refreshing....recharging. The solitude offers time to solve daily problems, enjoy nature--especially nature's light show at night--(BTW, this morning while soaking I saw 2 white pelicans fly by....they are fairly rare here and usually travel in much bigger flocks....absolutely beautiful animals), and ponder of all sorts of things. No radio (and I dearly love music--just not in the tub) or TV for me when I soak.
Bosco, I understand the guilt you may have knowing your wife wants to soak so bad but I would think your wife would be happy to experience her soaks through you while she does everything in her power to provide a perfect growing environment for your new child. Hats off to her and all mothers who give up so much for their future newborns--that is such a wonderful gift.
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I understand what you're saying Bosco. I also prefer some company when I am going for a soak. If the wife is not interested, I typically don't go out.
I don't think you should regret your purchase in any way just yet though. Remember, what you have is a high-quality luxury item that you can choose to use or not. That's why its we call it a luxury. Perhaps you are not using it as much at the moment, but that doesn't necessarily suggest that you will never use it again with the same vigor. However, your situation with the new-born en route will definitely not make it any easier for your wife to join you for awhile.
But your tub will still be there when you want it. And for most of us, that was kinda the point in buying one in the first place.
Good luck
Jc
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My sentiments exactly. Like Mendo, I find the solitude of a "personal" soak to be refreshing....recharging. The solitude offers time to solve daily problems, enjoy nature--especially nature's light show at night--(BTW, this morning while soaking I saw 2 white pelicans fly by....they are fairly rare here and usually travel in much bigger flocks....absolutely beautiful animals), and ponder of all sorts of things. No radio (and I dearly love music--just not in the tub) or TV for me when I soak.
That is me also. I am a regular morning soaker and is the reason the spa gets almost daily use after three and a half years. I also enjoy company, but that happens in the evenings and very much so not on a regular basis. IMO, most long time regular users will be personal soakers because after the initial thrill of owning the spa wears off, to get two or more people to want to use it at the same time on a very regular basis is difficult.
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well since the misses got knocked up, it has been a lonely time. For the past 4 months, I have been in it only a handful of times. I get bored out there by myself and I feel bad when I go in, because I know that she really wants to go in.
I've told you before, there's no reason why she can't go in. Two of my customers, the Durantes, used the spa while pregnant and the baby turned out fine:
(http://i20.photobucket.com/albums/b206/EastTexasSpa/Picture108.jpg)
The baby looked just like his old man.
Terminator
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When the wife isn't interested, the stereo acts as a reasonable substitute. Of course I've been known to soak in a light rain as she laughs at me. When she doesn't go, most of the time I will still go get at least a 20 min soak. Even a short soak like that makes such a difference.
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We were pretty keen to begin with (installed the tub in November) that's for sure. But now my wife has a rash and hasn't been in for 3 days, my 13 yr old goes in 3-4 times a week, my ten year old about once a week and yep, it gets pretty lonely out there. Plus we have a Medical Center next door and there's a fair bit of traffic and a few badly placed windows that make me feel self-conscious during the day (they're closed weekends tho'), hopefully the privacy fence next spring will fix that.
Been struggling with the water thing. Every time I get it tested there's some imbalance or another. It all seems more fussy than I was led to believe. Today I lifted the cover and the sparkling translucence was nowhere to be found - just murk.
Plus it's been very cold, -17 Celsius (1.4 Farenheit) that just makes it too much of an effort for the last few days.
But there are times, many of them, where I can't imagine not having the luxury of soaking and being massaged as my aching arthiritic back lulls slowly into some kind of normalcy. There's nothing quite like that...nothing at all.
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Bosco, I think your hot tub blues are hormone induced. Speaking from experience, the whole pregnancy thing is such a combination of wonderful and at not so wonderful at the same time. For example, my husband loves meat, especially a nice steak. For several months during my first pregnancy, I couldn't even stand the smell of meat cooking, let alone make him dinner. We ate NO meat. We survived and he didn't starve but he wasn't real happy.
(it may have actually helped his cholesterol). You will get that tubbin' feeling back as soon as your wife can join you again. Not, that she always will, just that she could if she wanted to. That makes a big difference.
I begged for a hot tub for therapy for 2 years! And my husband now thinks that I got it for him. He is the king of the favorite seat, and he goes in at random times, he control the music. The other day he had the nerve to ask if I would serve him dinner in the tub. If he did that to me when I was pregnant...I might have emptied the tub on him! So just relax, better days are coming when you again enjoy your hot tub with your family. ;)
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I begged for a hot tub for therapy for 2 years! And my husband now thinks that I got it for him.
He's a softie. I made my wife beg for 3 years before I broke down and bought her that new set of pots and pans (then again, it was our anniversary).
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Grrrrrrrr
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anyway, just wanted to know if anyone else has had this feeling of feeling like the glamour has vanished. How do you get it back.
I dunno bosco.
I was feeling the same thing....Got in the tub last night for the first time since Jan 7th, though, and it was awesome.....Looking forward to going out again tonight with the wife and a bottle of red wine.....weather's been unseasonably warm here in Ottawa....6 degrees today.
The newness has certainly worn off, and I'm less likely to drop what I'm doing at the drop of a hat to go soak, but I still enjoy it when I get out there.
Changed the filter last night.....3 months on that filter.....changed water after the first two weeks, but didn't change the filter...there were little white gunky things floating around....pretty disgusting, so I yanked out the old filter to see if it was breaking down and it sure was......all fuzzy......but it was caked with a 1/4" layer of beige goup that looked and felt like beige wet plaster...disgusting.......thinking I'll switch to reusable filters and runse them weekly.
I'd imagine the tub bypasses the filter when the restriction is high?? which could be why the water was gungy.