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Tman122:
Go Bosco go. From big city to country life was for me a long time ago. I was not in law enforcment but fast paced none the less. I found myself longing for slower things and outdoors instead of asphalt and exhaust fumes. There was a kid shot at the high school my kids would of gone to and I was gone in 2 months.
Now it hasn't quite worked out as I planned because it turns out I still stuggle for slower times, but I do cherish the time I get with my family more enjoying the outdoors. And even for less money I would have gone, it turns out we reach a time in our life when we realize money isn't everything and we actualy have enough, but we never have enough TIME. And when we do, it's to late.
But none of us can help much with your decision, ultimatly you and her have to decide. My son is almost done with his first year of law enforcment training. He decided to go to a very small college in Ely Minnesota pop. 450 from our city of 80,000 he wants to stay in that area. I want to join him in that area. I have a feeling he has become a better person because of our choice to leave a city and surrounding area of over a million 20 years ago. His interests are hunting and fishing instead of mall hopping and cruising.
thearm:
--- Quote ---How much of it is that you'll miss the adrenaline rush, vs you'll miss feeling like what you do makes a big difference for others?
If part of your happiness at work stems from the feeling that this current job is more "real" and that the other is not as rewarding, then perhaps you can make a difference in other ways. At-risk school groups? other community outreach? You have a perspective on life and the city that others could benefit from.
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Right on Anne, There are many ways to get the adrenaline rush and from making aa difference. I am in full time sales but also a volunteer fireman and EMT. Sales pays the bills but the most satisfaction is from my part time duties serving the community. One last thing is the pastor said he had heard several death bed wishes and never had he heard someone say they wished they had spent more time at work. Change is never easy but usually results in more growth. Work will always be there Family may not. Good luck in making the correct decision.
wmccall:
--- Quote ---Bosco:
I have only one real regret in life. I put work ahead of my family for many years. My physical and mental health suffered due to the stress.
My advice is to put your family above all else. Enjoy your kids and cherish your wife.
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I'm a a couple of Corporate buyout, factory closings, downsizing, replaced by someone half my age for half the money past putting work first. If Walmart would pay me $50k to say"Welcome to Walmart" I'd be there.
The number 47 is the only thing that has kept me working for the last 10 years.
Campsalot:
Boscoe, let me start out right away by saying please forgive me for what I'm about to do or the picture I'm about to portray.
You sir, like all of us here are maturing and with that comes wisdom.
Imagine Boscoe, a day sometime in your future when you are faced with one of those "adrenaline high" issues, only this time things go real wrong real fast. Maybe you didn't see it or expect it but the gun was there and the bullet found its mark as it caught you just above your chest protector and penetrated your neck. Funny, you felt no pain but by the look on the faces of the other officers and the amount of blood spurting from the wound you knew that this was not good. As you fell to the ground you were strangely aware of your colleagues gathering around frantically, some applying pressure to your wound and screaming at you to "STAY WITH US" and some just staring in shock. Remember thinking how sharp your mind stayed? Remember those thoughts of your wife, the courtship, the marriage, the birth of your children. The blood cannot be stopped and it has boiled down to a matter of time. Minutes, seconds ticking away and you lay there thinking and remembering those things you could of done, the simple choices you could of made. "Christ" you yell out as you realize that yes, you are dying right this very moment and you did not kiss your wife goodbye this morning. After all, why wake her? You will be back at home by ten. As the very last bit of your life pools beneath your cradled head you think of how simple it could of been to chose not to be here.
Boscoe, think of your wife and your children. Don't put yourself into the position that carries a higher probability of being killed. You quit living your life for you the day you were married!
I wish you well on your choice! Forgive me for attempting to bring some reality into a, "what if scenario". God bless and stay safe!
TD:
Let me preface this as I have been a member, and mostly lurker of this forum for a very long time. It took me awhile to get re-registered, as I had forgotten my password, and never post to any forums very much. I simply had to respond to this thread.
Like you, I have been a career law enforcement officer for a very long time, nineteen years. I was a member and supervisor of a multi-jurisdictional narcotics unit for almost twelve years. I understand the "adrenaline rush" and the desire for an exciting work environment, believe me, I had it. But about 3 years ago I was faced with a similar decision- my kids were 5 and 3, and I was working as a salaried employee, putting in over 250 hours per month, about a hundred hours per month over what I was being compensated for. I was missing an integral part of my kids growing up, and I was also faced with an ever-decreasing commitment by the U. S. government to battle drugs in our country. I decided I had to make a change, both for my career, and for my family. I went to work, back in uniform, for a different metropolitan suburb police department, at higher pay, but much less excitement and job satisfaction. I now work FAR fewer hours per month, and am able now to be an integral part of my family, and I would not trade this for anything. I still get the occasional opportunity to get my "adrenaline fix", and although this is rarer now, I still relish those moments, but I would rather be watching my kid's ball games, or helping coach, than to be crashing in some doper's door. Yes, admittedly, I am getting older, and more reserved, but I now realize how important my family is over my own sense of satisfaction in my career. I wish you the very best of luck in your decision, and I don't believe you will go wrong, however you choose. But for me personally, my kids think its much neater to have their Dad there, than to tell their friends what a cool job he has. I must admit, although I miss the old days, I prefer to be their Dad, than to have a fun job. I used to be more cop than Dad, and now I am more Dad than cop, and I prefer this. So, its off to the routine police work I go. With luck, you can have some of both. My main duties now are supervision and training, and I have really learned that I enjoy teaching these younger officers what it takes to be safe out there, and a few tricks on how to catch the crooks, after all, our main goal is to go home to our families after each shift. Godspeed to you, my friend.
TD
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